This son there was Ludwig Wittgenstein who is considered now call shy philosopher of the XX century.And still our society becomes is more and more anxious with the accelerated development and progress som: we teach French to kids, gymnastics to babies, we use for twoyearold the preparing SMOY geepok gas zsnazimt That the child grew the happy to reading the audio cassette which include in time of their dream, and a great lot of national estimates and tests which feed parental neurosises.Perhaps, it will be useful for you to accept in attention following.
At such pronouncing by the second by sound after it it will be heard shch.Pay attention of the child that after a sound h is heard other sound similar to noise of a sea surf.Let the child as it is possible pulls this second sound more long.Further the pronunciation of the sound going after h shch has to to interrupt short pauses as though one wave, rustling, runs on the coast for another.Pauses should be extended so that after a combination chshch sounded actually isolated sounds following one after another shch as though waves run on the coast less frequently.
I want to see uluch sheniye in the future!Without accusing and without punishing, we release children in order that they concentrated on responsibly st, but not on revenge.Now I want that both of you helped to clear di van from orangepeels and stones.How to speak that children listened.You told that as an alternative to punishment it is possible to express the disapproval.When I do it, mine the child looks such guilty, such unfortunate until the end of day that I am upset.
And all it occurred only because I listened and not interfered with its plans.But I could not leave business so.I nothing ska the hall Douglas, but called his teacher in that day also warned her about everything.She told that it is good that I called, as in today's mi re it is necessary to pay attention to threats.Next day all mine was required sa moobladaniye not to ask it that occurred at school.He approached me and told: Mother, you represent, this tease to me even not pribl it zitsya today.
The following stage is an ability to accept refusal in cooperation.It is very important factor.If we ask the child to make something, and thus he says that l now cannot, does not want, was tired and so on, to parents best of all or very much softly to react to his reaction, having told that anything, I can make it, let's make it together, I will help you.It is possible also to ask it to make that it does willingly and without your requests that will help to keep motivation of the child to serve another, in this case to serve people who are more expensive and closest.
If he sees the incompetence not to suffer a shame of the insolvency, he simply pretends that it is not interesting to it.Women, facing an unsoluble problem, start thinking out loadings, to give itself tasks in that sphere in which they feel the insolvency and helplessness.For example, the child often is ill or emotionally It is not arranged or badly gets on with contemporaries.Without knowing the true reasons of it, the woman tries to solve some other problems of the child.And often these problems which though can be actual on what that a life stage, are absolutely not svoyevrekmenny.
Well, everything is not so bad.Well, in kony the ends, happens.All right, life goes on.That there, everything is all right.Eventually, handlegged are whole y that is good .We are liveare healthy so everything is normal to rstdrink is so we will worry.And so on.All these phrases have one context: there are no bases so to feel.How to help to get rid of a stress to the son?On the other hand, Everything I will improve Mrs., mother, considers that if the problem is not solved, at least, it is necessary to talk about it.
Therefore all exercises are based taking into account gradual suppression tonic reflexes.Studying exercises in lying on a back, it is necessary previously access but to explain to the child of the rule of performance of exercises.When performing lying on a back and further when sliding remind the child about that the stomach should not become covered with water.Swimming trunks or bathing suit have to be on a water surface.Not smaller value has also position of the head.
These data have to preoST to twist your local social services.Information Talk to other parents, the personnel, tutors.Let your child will meet the potential tutor, and you will observe how they interact before to the prima those a final decision you will understand a lot of things from their conversation.Ask so many questions, how many it is necessary to find Uwe rennost.It can seem strange, even to the rough but it is very important for you.Any tutor respecting himself not will take offense as it only testifies to the parental care and not indifference.
The upryamy the girl refuses to try to understand, as if she would like to feel, the it will be more difficult for it to meet this person and, so this period of expectation because the understanding as I want to feel near this person, allows to reach the maximum power of desire of will be that more that I will receive.Even the loneliness and a certain disorder is given on well to create not only an image of the man, and that is even more important, as if you wanted to feel.If you manage to reach this mood, that is farther business remains for small.
Of give rise to each pour bears and has to continue to bear responsibility for that, that the child fitted into a new way of life.When adults get divorced, they sit down and speak: In what direction to me to think, that children a normal but it was endured, thus, that by my feelings in the strong confusion?How to continue family life, that it not strongly turned life of children?Arises oshchushche scientific research institute of affectation, but it it is necessary to make, that life of children did not fall apart.
Day nursery for the most small children part of this tendency.As the psychologist and the father of the children compelled to live in this world I feel fear of the future: millions of children had the defective childhood, and that main quality which defines us as people ability to love and care disappears from our life.The main axiom of psychology says that within the first three years of life the child receives the most important lesson how to love.Having refused close communication with children, I am afraid, we brought up the cold, gloomy, suppressed and aggressive generation to which it is not let know that such proximity of the native person and to test the real peace of mind.
Thus, all human culture, and first of all advanced equipment and modern the industry, entirely relies on mathematics.Already at the time of shumer apprx.years BC the person it is skillful to consider and measure.But long before it the crafts and trade having in the basis developed mathematical nature.The same concerns and to the child.First it has concrete experience of the address with the numerous subjects, and passes to abstraction on the basis of the acquired knowledge later.
But find only others stray smother.This book does not urge to return to old times, and it is rather to reconsider that the valuable there is in our human a nature.We have enough time to prove, and also to present some years of own life to the children.Pleasure to have children it is directly proportional to that we put in them; all is frequent the best in life is given difficult, but the biggest joy to see adult children, which l!obit us, are glad to be near us if we brought them to the correct way thanks to our care and even selfsacrifice.
Eventually, once we will not become a row, and our child will appear in very difficult situation.Say to Sufiya that when the person patronizes someone, excessively endowing own interests, values, eventually, the one to whom we patronize, gets to dependence on us and becomes the opponent.He tests hatred to the one who thus relaxed him, made dependent.Parents who constantly give and settle, deprive of possibility of the child to endure negative emotions to be valid to endure them, both quietly and optikmistichno to look at shady sides of life, and to find new solutions.
Looking at some children, it is difficult to believe in it.However it is necessary to remember that in each child there is an estestkvenny tendency to please and satisfy the rokditel, that is tendency to cooperate, consciousness that is the best way to adopt everything from parents that further will help it to exist with this rather difficult world, to develop and be improved spiritually.How to inspire the child to be obedient The technique of a positive roditelstvo considers two important factors of increase in motivation of the child to cooperation.
Stella Ward, nurse and coordinator of the Parental network Opening Your kid absorbs data on himself and world around with on tryasayushchy speed.The sixmonths child already knows bases social interaction, and by one year it is a sack turno the developed personality and even shows rudiments it is general stvenny etiquette for example, waves the handle at farewell.It is very sensitive to your reactions and answers, to the tory will have huge impact on his perception of, people, places and subjects in world around see.
Consider the following dialogue: We learn to interact Mother trying to be get prettier.Please, not jump on a sofa.The child continues to jump.Mother louder.Please, do not do it!The child still jumps.Mother suddenly strongly hits the child.I ska the hall please, unless is not present?What has happened?Why suddenly mother from politeness in some minutes passed to violence?Actually, when you overcome yourself, and you ignore, behind it immediately fit of anger follows.
There are lawful arguments against censorship, but there are also no arguments leaving children that they coped without support with any material which will get to them.Commission Children and violence Parents know force of an example and influence of telecasts for this reason my boys go crazy on the Cup the world for this reason I watch Sezam Street with mine kid.As we can know or in other cases of an obm to nyvat itself, what they do not study from this, what look?Simon P.Still disputes between those who considers that viewing storm violence scenes does us insensible and stimulates nasil stvenny behavior of children, and those who objects them, an osnovyva yas on proofs.
Sounds sound is softened and carelessly.A way of statement any.The hissing sounds can be replaced on correct or defective the whistling sounds sh on with, on z.Ways of statement I, III, V, VI.Words for check of a pronunciation of sounds sh and: x noise, a step, mice, ears, a chestnut, a cachenez, a mouthpiece, a cachepot, punch, shower g the greedy person, a bug, skin, a sandpaper, a tansy, an extraction, Fiji, zhazh yes, jacket ch ., '., d.' .
Now he understands that all sense of human happiness in the relations, in support, in love.It as if little idealistic picture.The child will not obyazaktelno go deep into search in this direction, and it will not become obligatory deeply spiritual, financially not attached personality.But, certainly, he learns that if I do not receive desirable, I nevertheless receive love of close people, I get support, compassion, understanding.And it allows it to wait quietly for the execution wished without desire without always sopuktstvuyushchy to desire of anger which spoils life to the child and another who surrounds it.
Scoring of feelings of the child can initially show sya unnatural, but, as well as other receptions, with experience stanet That the child grew the happy your second nature.Though here quite the zakonomer is covered Nye danger of your projection on the child of the own guesses on the fact that he feels, even if inside at not go other is created absolutely.Therefore if doubt or believe that he is full of mixed feelings, and tell: You are overwhelmed, probably, now by different feelings?You, maybe, at the same time both it is excited, and it is a little frightened?
Is even more destructive, more painfully when one of parents demands that the child kept a secret occurred or told from other parent.Even such phrases can sometimes sound: We go to eat ice cream, but do not speak to the father about it.Actually such relation does the child excessively close, for example, to one of parents, and at the same time deprives of it contact and interaction with another.Even worse if the request or the requirement of privacy is warmed up punishment threat.
Fig.lowers the person in water and examines a bottom.Then repeats everything at first.So it is necessary to pass to m.With an underwater mask or points this game at finds still bigger interest.It is possible along the line the hunter on to lay down some subjects.Then the task will become complicated it is necessary to find and to cast ashore all subjects.THIRD TASK Begin with repetition of exercises on immersion, and then pass to studying of new exercises.
Names + Define the first sound in names: Masha, Shura, Olya, Roma, Igor, Anna.+ Where Masha?Where Shura?+ Print.Make the analysis of words.Miss, draw squares.Find P: Alec sandr, Artyom, Roman, Vladimir, Sergey.+ As these people were called in the childhood?+ What middle name at you?Why?+ Letters all turned over.Put them correctly.+ Read words on paths.+ Print words names.+ Look and remember, what letters were painted over in the red color vowels, print them.
I thought up the decision!Every evening, when pas the pas comes back from work, we will go with it to the intersection, and it will teach me that mean fires on the traffic light and when it is possible to pass.Then he stopped and added: And when to me is fills seven, I will pass it.My husband nearly fell from a chair.I think, both of us underestimated our son.Nicknames, tenyearold son, suddenly all of a sudden told me at this moment it was necessary for me urgently to make a lunch and to leave the house that it lost three textbooks and I have to pay for them nine dollars.
To me it was so a pity for her children that I could not more it go to hear.I bought it How to speak.and Brotherhood without rivalry also advised to see at least pictures for a start, hoping that the book will carry away it.Mine mother told me that saw changes in communication sisters with her children.The selfassessment of two other children was it is rescued thanks to your books.I cannot really give all depth of mine appreciation to you that you shared the skills.Jane P.
Having reread our book eyes of people new tysya cheletiya, both of us came to a uniform conclusion.These prin tsipa are now significant, more than ever, because give rise body, irrespective of their situation in society, much are more strained and feel guilty, being broken off between the competing requirements on to work and houses, adjusting itself, that forty eight hours to upikhnut at twenty four o'clock, and trying the lat all possible and to be everything for the relatives people.Add consumer culture, here to the tory attacks children material tsennostya mi; the TV which parades otkroven ny sexual scenes; the computer, which before lagat instant, but very doubtful communication; the video games reducing a susceptibility to violence; movies which show infinite murders for the sake of an entertainment and entertainment.
You simply learn to whistle, as a mosquito if an example with mosquito already was and it was discredited, think up what nibud another for example, you will whistle now as whistle in whistle.Sometimes it is difficult for child to pass to a pronunciation of syllables with again put sound.Trying to repeat a syllable after you, the child can come back to an old defective pronunciation of a sound and for to be scraped on it.Therefore to train the child to say syllables often it is necessary not on imitation, and using roundabout receptions see page .
Why we punish?Here neko tory answers which parents gave us: If not to punish them, to them everything will escape punishment.I am sometimes so upset that I do not know, how still on to step.As my child will understand that he arrived a nepra vilno and that it is not necessary to do so next time, if I will not punish him?I punish the son because it it is uniform stvenny that he understands.Having asked parents to remember their own chuv stvo when they were punished, I received the following from Veta: I often hated the mother.
It depends on individual circumstances and from their experience, temperament and how we, parents, teach them to cope with difficulties.From us in this regard it is required races How to consult when it is difficult to learn problem situations and to understand the leading role, to tory we play, helping them.Many children are under pressure surpassing holes molar requirements for their age: it and family crises, and chronic social and economic deprivations it is impossible not to dootsenivat their influences.
Present that the child refuses to sit down with va mi and to solve a problem.What then?To some children it is awkward, when on the relation to them use this method.For these children of chorus necks the note based on those can become replacement principles.Dear Johnny, I would like to hear your ideas relatively how to solve a problem with.You, it is possible ho you cht, you feel, you need.I I want, I feel, it is necessary for me.Please, let me know about any decisions, which, in your opinion, will satisfy both of us.
From the book Understanding of Our Daughters Many young girls can be too good yes to itself to the detriment.Their culture changes, but there is a risk that many of them overrate the achievements in learn be and ability to please another.Blind obedience not on gives rise confidence in the forces, and success for the sake of other mo zht to have short life.The effect becomes more obvious later, but the reasons often lie in the early childhood of the child.As girls more konformna, and school more and more press, demanding from them results, especially on an ekzama na.
The terrible octopus of trade sits on a back of human race and dictates it the terms.All of us part of this system really or potentially.In this car only two functions production of money and their expenditure matter.Only money deserve respect and do you significant; unfortunately, they became a basis of our society.All other aspects of life which are not measured by money, are not taken into account and jump out as superfluous.It is friendship, a peace of mind, kindness, love, creativity, character, humour, spirituality and pleasure.
Feature of our course that it helps ourselves to take care of itselfhimself as about children, to restore or close those emotional holes which are result of the careless attitude of parents towards us.Many of us who could not make still it, could not recover and help grow up to the end as the child, has still doubt: than the humiliation differs from submission?Submission or humiliation?And so, on Vedic psychology if the person otkakzyvatsya to realize the desires, having voluntary put above them, even on some certain interval of time, desire of the direct authority, the parent, mentor or teacher, it is called as submission.
Moreover, the person gets rid of emotions which weigh him for long years of life.But if the child cries, without being thus in safety if there is nobody who would sympathize with him, would be adjusted on his this experience, would show care and caress, the feeling of own pokinuktost as a result increases and it is not possible to get rid of fear.Children live in eternal now It is one of features, one of secrets of mentality of children.Adults puzzle how to learn to live here and now, without noticing that near them there live beings absolutely with other warehouse of mentality who live exactly here and now.
During the period from six months to one year the frontal lobe of the child roughly grows.At this age the child starts realizing accurately who his parents, shows more concern in the presence of strangers.The child is more excited at new games and expresses more pleasure at development of new abilities for example when learns to go and tell the first words.It is age when the love of parents is necessary to children as air.All first year as a miracle: as if the child unpacks a suitcase of the vital potential and displays everything in the places.
By the present moment we considered children, applying skills.In this last letter of wives the tire describes its own experience of a perenimaniye modern language.As I sit now and I cry with happiness, from kroveniye and pride, I have to write to you and tell thanks.Thousand thanks.Today I realized, as sil but I changed as much I realized in practice.It was the insignificant case.To my son of three years there arrived the nineyearold cousin.It showed to my son how to put boards to reach to fence tops.
Already at younger school children have very complete idea about that is good and that is bad, and perfectly realize feelings other people see.Morals of your child.The growing independence Complexity for us as parents consists in, that uv to put this understanding at the child and to develop it, thereby podgo toviv it to life in which will be a lot of new, will be nezav simost and need to choose.It will give them the chance to make a right choice when us is not near that to prompt.For this purpose it is necessary: To develop a selfassessment and understanding of at the child.
Parents owe a log hut corduroy road of it.It is much easier for child to hear: I understand, that it is your toy, and you have all rights for that, to play with it.And I see that your small Awfully normal the sister too very much wants to try.When you zakho you cht, maybe, you will give it a toy?It helps it is better to motivate the child sharing.Bridget Tricia, coordinator of parental association The child steals Very small child can sometimes take that does not belong to it because he does not know yet that it is wrong.
It not only vosp thaws at the kid rudiments of necessary social skills, but also will reduce probability of confrontation.Do not store on a type of candy, cookies and other products, which you do not want to give to the child.Ensure support and rest.To consult from hysteria It is rather difficult for Kami so in this equation it is not necessary to add emotional or physical istoshcheniye.That the child grew the happy Action Full prevention of hysterics can appear the temper ache, but you will hardly succeed, and it should not become samoyets I pour.
It, naturally, the general facts, separate situations can differ.Doctor Lich with pain specified that in a case with depressive and irresponsible parents, with those who has social problems, the tutor would be more useful to the child.Quality of leaving does not exclude harm Such important factor as quality of yaselny leaving employees are how useful, psychologically steady, careful and educated makes only partial impact on total behavior of the child.Highquality leaving as showed researches, definitely helps informative and educational development, the children receiving more than individual attention from more competent tutors were less subject to stresses, but it could not eliminate risk factor too early, too much, too long.
Therefore children try to bring up us, and they do it, unlike us, very much kindly, by the way, not by violent methods.They simply give chance to us to progress together with them.We, unfortunately, use absolutely other methods.If the woman wants the child One of the Vedic principles says: if the woman wants to become a mother, to give birth to the child, and asks about it, the man who refused to it implementation of this Desire, will be punished.If the spouse dissuades the wife, explaining it is some reasons of a financial order, a lack of a living space, or it is simple that he will not get enough sleep, such person, tell the Veda, starts degrading Inevitably and it appears on the lowest planets.
If we are in a harmony with discipline as with regular, on the melted need of education, problems will be less.The most unfortunate children whom I know it is children to a blagonama renny, too liberal parents who force children to think that they deserve everything that have that them chuv stvo operate the world.People confuse discipline to punishment, but discipline in the dy stvitelnost are meant by training.A big lesson for age ache groups from two to six years to learn that they not the center Effective discipline the Universe to understand that also other people are important, and to learn, how la to dit with them.
If the boy misbehaves or the girl plays pranks, Catch them and beat on a bottom that knew beforehand, It is the best method of education of small fry, It is possible to slap all on a bottom, except wasps, bumblebees and bees.Grigory Oster was not engaged in the theory of education of children, nevertheless, very correctly caught it nastroyekny roditelstvo in the twenty first century in the books Bad advice.Now it is possible to consider some specific questions.Questions and answers Question: If in a family two children, the boy and the girl, a difference at them year who and how has to bring up them, children with grandmothers, grandfathers, aunts, uncles what is the time have to see off, whether have they the right for education of children?
It is necessary to accept any ideas.Very much often the most unattractive thoughts can to lead to fine feasible decisions.The main clause We will write down all ideas.Pi it is optional to sat, but anyway if to write down any idea, contribution of everyone looks adequately.One the child somehow told: My so clever mother.It for pisyvat all thoughts.Solve, what ideas are pleasant to you what are not present and what you want to realize.Pay attention to sharp remarks This du ratsky idea.
In it all sense.Importance of rules, which are established by the parent and which he adheres, it is heavy to underestimate during the period vzros line.All of us know how people to whose give rise are unpleasant whether missed this really important point, poskol ku, being adults, all of them still consider themselves center of the Universe.They were not taught that at others people too there are feelings.Steve Biddalf, psychologist and writer Be able to listen, for the sake of good and safety.
I did not want to break it.His birdie was good.How to speak that children listened.Father.You really did not want to break it.Son.Yes, but he would not believe me.Father.You do not think that he will believe you, if you will tell it the truth?With y N.I do not know.I all the same am going to tell to it, he will believe me or not.And I think, it has to will be to apologize for that threw my notebook in dirt!
Considering children's requirements and the changing family situation, it is possible to make reasonable elections which will be quite justified.Good luck to you!NOTES Introduction Perhaps, the first real alarm signal sounded when the convinced supporter of kindergartens, professor Jay Belski, declared change of the point of view on this subject in the work in Jay Belsky.Infant Daycare: cause for concern?//Zero to Three.September.P.By results of longterm researches of National institute of children's health and development NIDZR were published.
I knew, that you will consult from the very beginning.It it is strange posmot ret on me.I thought that I strengthen his confidence.I made something not so?When the parent speaks: I knew from the very beginning, that you can, he pays to the tribute sob rather to stvenny pansophy, than achievement of the child.The child can even think: As my father could know, what I will win?I did not know.It is much more useful to describe to the child his progress: This the award symbolizes months of trainings and huge determination!
Peter Wilson, children's psychotherapist and director of Young Minds I think, after the child's birth very important skontsent to rirovatsya on a family, and not just on the woman.All family endures a transition period.Yekhudi Gordon, konsultantginekolog and obstetrician, the expert in the field of complete medicine Important relationship For the child important, in what relations you are with yours partner.That he sees houses, will significantly influence on its understanding of the acceptable behavior and style of the human relations.
It begins when they already understand that they little people with own rights, but yet not understand that people around same!Ennm.Small children need to show how to share; they dolzh ny know that it means.They also should practice in it therefore encourage them when they distribute cookies or other entertainment or offer a toy to the friend.Praise them if at them it turns out.Expectation that your child willingly will share everything not it is realistic.Most of adults will share with pleasure pi Russian cabbage soup, a shelter, even clothes, however it hardly happens, if business will concern the car or a wedding ring of their mother.
To learn it is correctly to say sounds, rebeno has to be able to perceive precisely them aurally.This ability pr; vilno to hear and learn sounds is called as speech hearing.R < Ceva the hearing something is similar musical.Thanks to musical hearing the child can distinguish one musical sound from another, blagodar to speech hearing he distinguishes sounds of the speech and distinguishes them boundaries, d itself.By means of speech hearing the child learns to say sounds.
Some areas of our brain are initially equipped, that is they are active at the birth.But the most part of a brain joins gradually.In this chapter we will sort as the necessary sites of a children's brain in due time develop and why the second year of life of the child is a high time for responsible education which cannot be shifted to the stranger's shoulders thoughtlessly.The person, as well as any other animal, fish or a bird, has the primitive central part of a brain helping us to survive.It is our hereditary brain called by a cerebellar almond epitalamus which is in the center of the head and has a form of the cone reminding a walnut.
COUNCILS FOR CARRYING OUT PRACTICAL TRAINING Parents usually acquaint the child with the surrounding world.Today you should acquaint him with water.And from that, as this acquaintance will happen, depends, whether your child of occupation will fall in love swimming.Giving classes on water, it is necessary to be quiet, as bad the mood of mother or father, providing training, is easily transferred to the child.It is in that case better to postpone occupation next day.
Someone from people can very quickly learn to prepare, but it is very difficult for them to seize skills of driving of the car.Four types of temperament The following aspect of distinctions in the nature of children which too is very important for considering are types of temperament.Owing to influence of various elements of the material nature fire, air, water and the earth, there are four types of children: active, sensitive, kommunikaktivny and receptive.They in something it is similar to obshchekizvestny sanguine persons, choleric persons, phlegmatic persons and melancholiacs, Sensitive children have a high emotional susceptibility, are inclined to complain, show desire of compassion, receiving support.
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